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Ship-Shape and lovin it……
Shared Moments: ‘Weddings’ written by Oliver Cross
Weddings arenât what they used to be, which is a relief for people who donât like sexism, crude humour, drunkenness, ill-fitting outfits, unimaginative food or seething family tensions.
None of which were even hinted at the wedding of my grandson Sam and my new relative Mrs Becky Cross, mainly, I think, because all the youngish people I know (especially Sam and Becky) are more sensible than I ever was, not to mention more thoughtful, intelligent, enterprising and â which, I realised at the wedding, is the most important social virtue â much kinder too.
So, in keeping with  the kindly mood established by the happy couple (âhappyâ being, so far as I could see, an accurate description rather than a wedding clichĂ©), everybody was nice to each other, enjoying the company of, in many cases, strangers and delighted by the just-in-time end of the Covid lockdown.
Which could sound dull but really isnât, particularly when you consider that the alternative might be a wedding in Walford, Emmerdale or Kabul during the massacre season.
This ceremony was in rolling green countryside near York in a set of old and very attractive agricultural buildings repurposed to look completely unlike the cramped and charmless register office where I was married in the 1970s and which, as I remember, mainly overlooked the councilâs rates department.
Since then, and excluding pandemics and climate change, much has changed for the better. English wedding-goers have started to understand the concepts of smart-casual clothing, ecologically-aware confetti-throwing and acceptable hair arrangements (as a reminder of how bad things were, you could look at wedding pictures from the 1970s and 80s, after first reading a trauma warning).
Other things didnât need to change; bridesmaids in uniforms  so glamorous that you could imagine them breaking into a West End dance routine, a bride wearing a lovely white dress with  a lacy train which was so definitively a wedding dress that it couldnât be repurposed into anything else and its future is secure.
There was even a wedding cake tiered, though not in the usual way, by Sam, who, unlike most men in the last century, knows how to bake very well.
But I think the most impressive improvement was in the quality of the wedding speeches. These have been, in my experience, minor ordeals to be got through with the aid of stiff drinks. Here, everybody, especially Sam and Becky, said what they had to say very wittily and intelligently and without recourse to boorishness, cheap cracks or showing-off.
Taking the long view, which, at my age, isnât quite as long as it used to be, I can see, based on the wedding speeches alone, a union of two families who, being blessed with rare intelligence and goodwill will continue to enrich each otherâs lives, just like the Montagues and Capulets didnât.
Catch up and a cuppa at Morrisons Cafe in the Merrion Centre
A few weeks ago some of us enjoyed a catch up and a cuppa at Morrisons Cafe, Merrion Centre in Leeds before the refurb commenced. We look forward to going back once it’s finished. Get in touch if you would like to join us:Â lisa@caringtogether.org.uk
Opening our doors…..
Shared Moments: ‘Freedom Day’ written by Maureen Kershaw
Dear all,
Freedom Day? Well itâs not what I expected when we awaited its dawning some sixteen months ago. When we thought â and hoped â it would happen when a vaccine was found, I made my choice of tune to be played upon the day. Not âFreedomâ sung by Aretha Franklin nor âFreedom Comes, Freedom Goesâ by The Fortunes ( though this may be more appropriate) but âA Brand New Dayâ from the Musical âThe Wizâ. Playing it on Sunday a couple of times instead of Monday, being rather wary of what exactly dawn would bring, it would have been so perfect, if only it meant complete freedom.
Trains and buses in anticipation of many more passengers – the latter certainly increasing numbers onboard to full capacity â must have been quite disappointed. I travelled to town during the âmorning rushâ to find the same numbers as before and thankfully all wearing masks. Walking around Morrisonâs the only customers not wearing face coverings were, shall we say, probably amongst those who discarded theirs long ago. So far so good. A cuppa and catch up with a friend in M & S Cafe was enjoyed, observing  how tables had been maximised but not the number of takers.
However, I got the gist that the majority of people are continuing with their daily routine as they have chosen so to do until now, never mind what our Prime Minister said was available to us in relaxing the rules. Certainly queuing to enter a nightclub at the midnight hour held no interest to me but there again I would have had to have been approximately 50 years younger to appreciate that.
My trolley will be at my side on the bus or train so I do not have to share a seat with a stranger, consequently I am nervous at the thought of sitting close to anyone unknown to me in a theatre â Â for the time being. One thing I did notice in town was the signage still indicating âkeep leftâ or âno entryâ plus the floor stickers at one or two metre intervals reading âstand hereâ although it could be they are stuck fast by now and will stay for the remainder of time.
Iâve never been âpingedâ but without the App thereâs no chance of that anyway, which is probably a good thing. I still donât fully understand the workings of leaving oneâs name and telephone number as surely the only way one can receive a call to âIsolateâ is in the event of someone calling particular establishments to report a case, and how many actually do? We will probably never know with any accuracy.
The Country is in a mess now with short staffing through being pinged, even being referred to as the âPingdemicâ but so far no-one has come up with a name for the rest of us who leave our details on a piece of paper with the assurance that after 21 days, all evidence will be destroyed. Rather like the disappointment of âif you havenât heard from us within 21 days, your application has been unsuccessfulâ, except in this case no news is good news . So I will continue with my regular lateral flow tests, wear a mask, observe safety measures and carry on as though âFreedom Dayâ hasnât happened. What a joyous day it will be though when eventually I can play my favourite âWizâ tune âA Brand New Dayâ when all this is behind us. I may even join in with the Hoedown section.
Specialist Gardens outing at Roundhay
The specialist gardens are opposite the Roundhay Fox pub on Mansion Lane, LS8 2EP. There are also specialist gardens in the Canal and Coronation Gardens off Princes Avenue by Tropical World. We had a look at these too after our cuppa.
The opening hours are: 9am to 3:30pm daily.
- The Coronation Garden is home to our winning entries to the Chelsea Flower Show. Formerly a kitchen garden there are thousands of rose trees and bedding plants
- The Monet Garden is based on gardens planted by the impressionist at Giverny in France, was introduced to the park in 1999.Â
Vaccine Bus back at Little London Community Centre this week
The vaccine bus will be in the car park at Little London Community Centre 10am – 3pm from today until Friday 16th July.
Open for 1st and 2nd doses (8 weeks after 1st) of Astra Zenica vaccine and particularly aimed at those over 40
No appointment needed
Shared Moments: ‘Conversation’ written by Oliver Cross
One of the most regrettable side-effects of the Covid pandemic, aside from death, illness and impoverishment, is that it encouraged people to talk more, even though thereâs less to say.
For example, there was a time, at the height of the vaccination drive, when everybody wanted to tell everybody else that they had had one or both of their inoculations, that staff were friendly and efficient and that they felt fine afterwards, or if they didnât that they werenât grumbling, even though what they were doing might easily be mistaken for  grumbling.
The larger implications of the global pandemic, along with associated concerns such as the sausage shortage, were largely ignored. This is what happens when the nation pulls together; we all focus on the big issue, in this case getting everybody jabbed, at the expense of ordinary, pleasant conversation.
The big issue as I write is the European football championships. I donât know anything about football, especially as played by foreigners, but I do know, because so many people say so, that beating Germany last month was one of the finest moments in Englandâs history.
It almost exactly replicated our win against a country which no longer exists at an earlier stage of a different competition which took place before most people were born. If football really were to come home, it would find itself in the middle of the Vietnam War.
As well as the much-heralded âgreat summer of sportâ we also face a summer of quite unnecessary talk in which experts tell the viewers what they think is about to happen, although if the viewers wanted a definitive view of how the game might progress, they would be better advised to wait for it to start, maybe filling in the time by darning a sock or making a mug of Bovril (which is my attempt to recreate the spirit of  â66.)
Commentators try to help by offering insights like âBoth teams will be hoping for an early goalâ, or âAndy Murray will be looking dourâ, as if that might deepen our understanding of what sports people do, other than to demonstrate their hard-won skills with or without the help of chattering pundits.
Although chattering has, over the pandemic, become a declining skill. Just because weâre living through our greatest health emergency since the last one, weâve started taking things too seriously and chattering opportunities have become scarce.
Before we even start weâve got to check weâre socially distanced and correctly masked or, if the conversation is being conducted by Zoom, that weâve hidden the discarded beer cans and takeaway cartons, which wouldnât sit well with our claims to have spent all day making artisan vegan quiches.
(Incidentally, I join with a group of friends in regular Zoom get-togethers at which the chief problem is not that weâre lying our heads off; itâs that the honest, unvarnished truth of our lockdown lives is seldom more entertaining than algebra, or curling).
At which point, as I often do, I turn to my guru, Dr Samuel Johnson, who thought the happiest conversations were the ones which left a pleasing impression, even though nobody could remember later what the heck they were about. These may resume when bars and cafes reopen fully and when we all drop our guard a bit.
Shared Moments: Catching a clip from âA Show Of Handsâ written by Maureen Kershaw
Catching a clip from âA Show Of Handsâ on Radio 4 Extra took me back to the days when I had lovely hands with long slender fingers â almost worthy of being a model for hand cream or nail polish adverts. As a child Mum would tell me I had âa pianistâs handsâ and she being an accomplished player herself, probably knew. Having lessons from early childhood in the 1920s, she was forever in demand at school â St Michaelâs in Headingley, now the Parish Centre. Mum would often play for morning Assembly but then would come the call âDorothy can you play for singing (or dancing class)?â. Goodness knows what happened to the school pianist as Mum always put down her lack of learning to having been called upon to play. The boy sitting next to her in class often complained to the teacher how Dorothy was cheating by copying his work. That boy was Alan Pedley who in 1975-76, became the Lord Mayor of Leeds.
Mum came from a talented musical family, her brothers playing violin, saxophone and banjo and on the keyboard side, her uncle was an extremely gifted pianist and accompanist who sadly passed away at the age of 31. The family tree reveals many church organists and organ builders living around Woodhouse and Hyde Park, so all must have had those wonderful hands. We had a piano in the front room of my childhood home, a wedding present to Mum & Dad in 1937 and I remember well its beautiful Burr Walnut casing. Mum would play at any family gathering, but at other times when the front room was out of use and the coal fire unlit, she would put on her coat and headscarf against the chill and play some of her favourite melodies, in particular âViliaâ from âThe Merry Widowâ or â in the style of Charlie Kunz â âTea For Twoâ and âWalking My Baby Back Homeâ.
Any attempts to teach myself to play failed miserably so I was not to continue the tradition sadly, something I have since regretted. When moving house in 1970, Mumâs beloved piano was sold â for ÂŁ3! It included the piano stool too, full of sheet music. Oh how I would have loved to have been able to look through those gems now. My late brother in law was a brilliant pianist, excelling in jazz and classical was a Lecturer on the first Jazz & Light Music Course in 1967 at Leeds Music Centre, now the City of Leeds College of Music. His sons and mine all are musicians, guitar, bass and percussion. Me? After years of choral and show work I can âfollowâ sheet music but still cannot sight read. I used to love knitting, mainly baby clothes and simple crochet but advancing osteo-arthritis put a stop to that. As was mentioned in the radio clip, although I needed no reminder, advancing years can bring along crooked fingers and nobbly knuckles. Mine are no exception and coincidentally my Sister had the same misshapen hands, as did our Mum. All hail Arthritis! Child-proof tops are impossible to open without the assistance of a special gadget, necklaces which pop over the head are preferable and as for securing earrings, the âbacksâ almost always end up on the floor. Can I have a âshow of handsâ from anyone else sharing this plight? I certainly donât show MY hands more than is necessary and the only keyboard keys âplayedâ being on my laptop.